This is definitely something that held me back for a long time. I wasn't done being a wife. I wasn't ready to give up the idea that my kids would grow up with a dad. It took a long time for me to let go of what I thought our lives were supposed to look like. It's hard to find your place in a world where these are the ideals required to fit in, too.
It's us misfits that pave the way for the others, and when trauma causes their worlds to fall apart, too, they'll know who to go to for love, hope, acceptance, community, and healing.